Prompt — Actions Vs Words — What Do You Use To Say What You Can’t or Don’t Want to Say?

Many of us are guilty of using words to say what we want to say, but use actions to say what we can’t say or don’t want to say.

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In a discussion this morning with one of my daughters, and she said I was non-confrontational. I don’t confront people when they wrong me.

I really don’t, but it’s not because I am non-confrontational, it’s because I read, understand, and am aware of your actions in whatever situation or conflict we are in. And after lessons are learned, you close the exit door you created by your actions and I learn from you and forgive or move on.

My half-brother’s wife couldn’t get along with his mother, so she had to find somewhere else to live. I learned later that she didn’t get along with his family and wanted none of them at their house. I lived in a nice spacious one-bedroom apartment with my two daughters who were kids. She was old and sick, and couldn’t work, so I put her up. His half-sister whom we grew up with, needed somewhere to stay, so I made room for them.

We had lots of fun living together as a family. I charged no one rent and paid all my bills. They just provided their own food.

His mother died and everyone grew up.

Years later, my oldest daughter lost the key to her apartment and didn’t realize it until she left work at 11:00 PM. She called up her uncle to explain her situation, asking if she could stay at his house for the night until her roommate got home from work the next morning and could let her in. My daughter didn’t drive then, and her roommate worked far away.

I allowed his mother and sister to stay at my apartment, rent-free and my nineteen-year-old daughter, his niece, needed somewhere for the night and he couldn’t accommodate her.

My husband and I were living in Jamaica.

He did the next best thing. He drove her to her roommate’s job and got her key.

My youngest daughter believed that he did me wrong.

What do you think?

I explained to her that he did me no wrong. He owes me nothing and I am grateful he took the time to take my daughter to get a key. She is happier in her own apartment after a tiring day at work. He also taught me something about himself.

I convinced my children that no one has to do anything for them, even if you just saved their life.

When you get kindness, be grateful and return it!

Some humans will say what they want to say with words. What they can’t or don’t want to say, they use actions.

Unaware that some people are watching and can read and understand exactly what they are saying.

I enjoy reading about your actions in every situation or circumstance that life throws your way. It tells the people around you a lot about you. I learned from my half-brother that my children aren’t welcome at his house. He never invited us in all the years we lived in New York, even though he could visit his mother very often at mine.

I don’t have to confront anyone, your actions tell me what you are saying. I also learned something valuable about you.

I read your mind through your actions, choices, and decisions. Many of us are guilty of using words to say what we want, and actions to say what we can’t say or don’t want to say.

What about you? What do you use to say what you can’t say? Or don’t want to say?

Write a prompt about how creative, you say the things you can’t say or don’t want to say.

Lol, I can see your imagination flying away.

It can be about anything. Be creative, funny, forgiving, etc.

Thank you for reading this piece. I hope you enjoy it.